Kindness

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“Kindness covers all of my political beliefs. No need to spell them out. I believe that if, at the end, according to our abilities, we have done something to make others a little happier, and something to make ourselves a little happier, that is about the best we can do. To make others less happy is a crime. To make ourselves unhappy is where all crime starts. We must try to contribute joy to the world. That is true no matter what our problems, our health, our circumstances. We must try. I didn’t always know this and am happy I lived long enough to find out.”

– Roger Ebert

On Being Yourself

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It’s something you hear over and over as life advice, but it’s one of the most important and difficult things in life to find and accept. Be yourself. We spend a lot of our time thinking about what other people are thinking about us. It’s an innately human thing to want to be liked. Especially by the people you like and think are cool. We end up putting on a person costume and acting out a role for the person we think they would want us to be.

The worst thing that could happen is that it would work. That whoever you are trying to talk to find impostor you an intriguing person. Now you’re trapped. You have to go on acting out the role and denying who you are inside. That can only go on for so long. Eventually the seams of the costume are going to fray and the real you will be bursting to come out. When the real you finally does come out, it’s unnatural to the other person. Where they may have been cool with you for who you were in the beginning there’s now only an uncomfortable feeling and a sense of betrayal. They’re left wondering who you really are.

Far better to be honest and be yourself, whoever that is, from the beginning. If they’re not cool with that, then it was never meant to be. You both save a lot of time trying to impress one another and can get on with finding the people who you can be comfortable around and just be you. Learn, change, grow, but always be true to you.

Good Time to be Alive

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“The world is a thing of utter inordinate complexity and richness and strangeness that is absolutely awesome. The idea that such complexity can arise not only out of such simplicity, but probably absolutely out of nothing is the most fabulous extraordinary idea. And once you get some kind of inkling of how that might have happened, it’s just wonderful. And the opportunity to spend 70 or 80 years of your life in such a universe is time well spent as far as I am concerned.”

– Douglas Adams

Buy the Ticket – Take the Ride

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This marks my 50th consecutive day posting something here. Doing a site like this is something I never really saw myself doing, and I had no idea what to expect going in to it. I still really don’t. It’s still a little weird to me that people from all over that I’ll never meet have seen my stuff, and some liked it enough to follow me or come back. I just assumed no one other than the people I tell about it would ever see it. It’s a pretty cool thing.

Writing has been an interesting ride for me. Some days I write very personally and include a piece of myself and no one really sees it. Other days, I post some random quote I happened to find that I liked and people find it and eat it up. That’s half the fun, I never know what will happen. But ultimately, doing this has made me happier than I could have expected. Forcing myself to write every day helps me to be more positive in general, appreciate the things that happen around me more, be open to new experiences, and helps remind me every day that life is beautiful.

So thank you to everyone who stops by and checks out what I post here, both the people I know and the strangers I never will, I appreciate it. Hopefully you get something out of it, I know I have.

Keep looking for the things you love in life, and pursue them with all you have when you find them. Have the courage to go all in and keep going even when you doubt yourself or it seems like the world doesn’t care. Life is weird, and things pay off in unexpected ways. It’s a wild ride, buy your ticket and enjoy it while you can.

Harmony

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This weekend I want to appreciate those moments in your life where everything feels like it is working in perfect harmony. In sports they call it being in the zone. You can see it when a musician really truly feels their performance and watching them looks like the notes they are playing are being ripped right from their soul. It’s tremendous to watch.

Unfortunately, I have no musical or artistic talent. I’ll never know what it’s like to draw a masterpiece or play in a band where everything just clicks and the end result is this amazing, moving thing. For me, physical exertion always felt more natural. The closest thing I have is those rare moments when I push myself to run as hard and as fast as I can for as long as I can until I just can’t go any more.

I’ve written about it before, but by no means am I runner. I’m not the fastest and I definitely can’t run the longest. But, in that moment, where I am pushing myself as hard as I can go, I am tapping in to something beautiful. Every muscle in my body is working, striving, pushing harder and harder. Every breath and every heartbeat is fueling my body to go forward. There is no room for thought, it’s one of the only times where the only thing there is room for is pure, unadulterated action. Everything fades away and all you can hear is the rush of wind in your ears as you go faster and faster.

I love those moments. I live for them. Where you feel like the maestro in the most perfect life symphony ever played. If you haven’t found your moment yet, there’s no better day than today to start looking. Appreciate that there is something out there for you just waiting to be discovered. If you’ve found your harmony, your place of solace, cherish it and always appreciate it.

If

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If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

– Rudyard Kipling

The Story of a Belt

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The picture above is of my old belt, banana included for scale. Over the last 6 months I went from the belt hole three in from the left by the banana stem all the way to the holes I carved into it on the left of the picture. I’ve lost count of the number of pounds and the inches lost and I’m happier that way.

In the past whenever I lost weight it was for a reason. I was getting ready for a sport I was playing, or I was doing it for a girl, or I was getting ready to go away to college and wanted to make a good impression. As long as I had that goal, that target weight or that date I was hoping for, I would stay strong. As soon as I reached my goal, I would begin to slide back into old habits. I would relax my discipline. I would stop working out as much, get complacent, satisfied with where I was. In a few years I would be back where I started again, barely able to understand what had happened.

Now, I have no goal weight or thing I want to accomplish. I just want to be in better shape because I believe it will help me be a better version of myself. I want to live as long as I can to be able to enjoy as much of this world as I can. Ultimately, I view it as a journey, not a battle. A battle is designed to wear you down and make you miserable. All battles end. A journey is a way to enjoy yourself on your way to where you would like to be.