Boulders of Truth

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“”Never give up!
Always be yourself.”
It’s gonna suck hearing that over and over as you get older
But as stereotypes start with a grain of truth
Cliches begin with a boulder”

– George Watsky, Letter to My 16-Year-Old Self

“Time will tell”, “A diamond in the rough”, “Haste makes waste”, “Time heals all wounds”, “All that glitters isn’t gold”. They’re lines we hear over and over in life. They become a quip and lose the meaning behind them. The line above from Watsky is one of my favorites. It’s a reminder that there’s a reason you hear these lines over and over again. There’s a tremendous amount of truth behind them. It’s good to step back every now and then and appreciate the meaning behind the common sayings we hear all the time.

Never Too Late

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I’ve written about this topic briefly before, but one of the things I firmly believe is that it is never too late to do anything in life. So often I hear from people that they feel like they’ve messed up their lives and have wasted them. That they didn’t expect to be where they are at their age. They were expecting to have a more cookie-cutter life. Maybe that’s married with a house and a kid, maybe it’s being in the career they always dreamed about. Maybe it’s just the feeling of having a purpose that they are still struggling to find.

But that’s one of the beautiful things about life. We’re the ones who keep our own score. There’s no official rulebook to this thing. Eventually it will all click, maybe not when you expected, but rather when it should for you. Once it does fall in to place, the only thing standing in your way will be you. You will have a choice to let regret tell you that it’s too late, that if you had only started earlier in life you could have done the thing. Or, you can listen to the voice that knows that doesn’t matter, that you can’t change the past or get those years back, but that no matter what happens, 10 years from now, you will be 10 years older than you are today. When you are 10 years older, do you want to be the person that marvels at how far they have come, throwing everything they had into something? Or the person who wonders where another 10 years have gone?

As sure as the sun will rise, life goes on, with or without us. Everything in our lives, good and bad, has made us who we are today. No matter how long it takes, just remember, it is never to late to be who you want to be.

Coffee

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As you may have guessed from the name of this blog, I am a big fan of coffee. The site’s name comes from the title of the email I would send out each day to my co-workers that were in a coffee club with me. Each day I’d let them know when the coffee was ready and include random pictures or quotes or things I found interesting. Those emails were the inspiration for this site, so it seemed appropriate to keep the name.

Coffee is tremendous. I love the way it smells. I love mixing and matching different flavors and coming up with new combinations to try. I don’t even drink it to wake up, I just enjoy the taste. Coffee also has numerous health benefits. Coffee has been shown to increase metabolic rate in the short term, contains nutrients like vitamin B2, B5 and Potassium, can lower your risk of type II diabetes, help lower your risk for Alzheimer’s and Dementia, lower your risk of developing cirrhosis of the liver, and contains a ton of antioxidants. Black coffee also has about 2 calories per cup.

It’s an all-around fantastic drink. This Sunday, I will follow my own advice and take a moment to stop and smell the coffee and appreciate the wonderful drink that has brought me so much happiness.

Strange as a Stranger

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“I used to think I was the strangest person in the world but then I thought there are so many people in the world, there must be someone just like me who feels bizarre and flawed in the same ways I do. I would imagine her, and imagine that she must be out there thinking of me, too. Well, I hope that if you are out there and read this and know that, yes, it’s true I’m here, and I’m just as strange as you.”

– Frida Kahlo

We’re All Making It Up As We Go

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“Fall in love with some activity, and do it! Nobody ever figures out what life is all about, and it doesn’t matter. Explore the world. Nearly everything is really interesting if you go into it deeply enough. Work as hard and as much as you want to on the things you like to do the best. Don’t think about what you want to be, but what you want to do. Keep up some kind of a minimum with other things so that society doesn’t stop you from doing anything at all.”

– Richard Feynman

Should and Must

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“Our prison is constructed from a lifetime of Shoulds, the world of choices we’ve unwittingly agreed to, the walls that alienate us from our truest, most authentic selves. Should is the doorkeeper to Must. And just as you create your prison, you can set yourself free.”

– Elle Luna

Bridges and Walls

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“We build too many walls and not enough bridges”

– Isaac Newton

Sometimes in life we find ourselves in a bad place that causes us pain and makes us unhappy. All too often our reaction to this is to bunker down and build walls to protect ourselves. But all we are really doing is reinforcing ourselves in the bad place, further entrenching ourselves and making it that much harder for anyone else to reach us.

When we find ourselves in a place we do not want to be, we should instead use that same effort to built bridges instead. Something that will take us somewhere else. It can be a bridge to be with people you know care about you, a bridge so someone else can reach you if you don’t have the strength to leave the bad place on your own yet, or just a bridge to somewhere different. You don’t know what that journey of the bridge will bring, but you know for sure that whatever it might be has got to be better than sitting behind a big wall with only the bad place that you know surrounding you.

Crab Mentality

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No, crab mentality is not about approaching life as a grouch, crabbing about all the things that are wrong. It refers to an interesting phenomenon with blue crabs. When they are in a bucket, if one of them climbs out to escape, the other crabs will reach up and pull it back down.

It’s as if to say, if I can’t go, no one can! The behavior carries over to humans as well. Something about us almost revels in seeing someone else try and fail. There are entire TV shows dedicated to picking people apart. For some reason, people love a fall from grace. People will snipe at another person’s success and belittle their achievements to bring them back down.

We should aspire the be the crab that lends a helping claw. If we see someone going for something we should encourage them and help them in any way we can, just as we would hope others would do for us if we were in that situation.  The world is not a zero-sum game where someone else getting something means that you won’t. The world is a huge, amazing place and there is more than enough to go around for us all.